The How, When and Why of Don’t Call Me Princess
Our story starts, dear reader, about five years ago when my daughter looked like this:
Quite little, huh? And we were in the Sure Start Centre (RIP), at playgroup, and there was a dressing-up box, and she put on a blue shiny dress. You know the sort – the ones the Disney corporation and Tescos punt to our little ones. Whereupon all the other adults in the room exclaimed “Oh! You’re a princess!” “Pretty as a princess!” and I was like:
because I have never liked this princess thing.
We’ve come so far since the 1950’s. Back then girls had such restrictive role models. They could just aspire to be a ballerina, a nurse, or a teacher – all professions which carry a modicum of skill. Nowadays, they get to be princesses. We’ve come so far. In the wrong direction.
I mean, what do princesses actually do? They’re the property of their father, they sit around looking pretty, they become incapacitated as a result of some (usually avoidable) hardship or peril… Then they are ‘rescued’ by a complete stranger who gets their hand in marriage and nicks their kingdom.
That’s the fairy tale version. There are real-life princesses too, and while I follow the reality TV show that is the Windsors as much as anyone else, I’m under no illusions that filling my newsfeed with reports of the state of Meghan Markle’s tights is anything other than self-destructive. The media collectively grooms us into accepting the monarchy, and since most people in the UK believe that the Royal family “deserve” the obscenely disproportionate amount of British land, assets, public funding and political power that they retain, it works. Let’s not think about the fact that if Prince Phillip hadn’t spent £18,690 on a single train trip last year maybe our Sure Start Centre wouldn’t have had to shut down?
From time to time, children’s authors try to reclaim the princess stereotype. They’re good stories. I’m glad that Babette Cole made Princess Smartypants, Munsch gave us The Paper Bag Princess and Kate Beaton dreamed up The Princess and the Pony. But there are a lot of them. A browse of A Mighty Girl’s book catalogue throws up 98 versions of the “independent princess”, suitable from birth(!) to teenage years. I’m not interested in adding to it. Princesses, Kings and Queens have no place in any children’s story that I write. It still plants the idea in young minds that one person can own or run a country and everyone else in it should be subjects, not citizens. I don’t think that’s a good idea. I prefer democracy to dictatorship.
Anyway [climbs down off soapbox and packs it away] I was standing right there in the playgroup in the middle of the toddler melee, and the idea for Don’t Call Me Princess came to me, both the title and the final line:
The draft. (A breeze).
Life then got in the way, as life does. I finished writing and drawing my comprehensive choose-your-own-adventure manual of pregnancy, fertility and birth. I wrote and drew my surprisingly successful graphic biography of Rosa Luxemburg (surprising to me, that is). Got married, moved house, got married again (to the same person, just reversing the roles this time). Went to Calais, hung out with some refugees, wrote a book about that, hung out with some more refugees – they thought my wedding photos were hilarious. But I kept Don’t Call Me Princess on the back burner, and when a publisher approached me last year and asked if I had any ideas for children’s books, I replied “Yes. There is something.”
It took me three days to write Don’t Call Me Princess. I roughed out a 36-page book format, approximately plotted that I needed six princesses, ruled out Cinderella (she’s not actually a princess), and cracked on with it. Just me, a three-quid plastic fountain pen and a subscription to a shit-hot online rhyming dictionary. (I confess, I did not match “Rapunzel” with “implausible” unaided). I had so much to say. I know it’s “just a story”, I know we’re “not meant to take this stuff seriously”, but traditional fairy tales teach some the littlest and most impressionable members of our society some deeply dodgy “romantic” ideals.
When that random Prince discovers a girl in a coma in bramble-filled castle, he definitely needs to rethink his next move…
What is it with this “Happy Ever After” scenario – rushing off with a guy who you’ve never laid eyes on before?
And Beauty, we’ve all been there, but please, learn from our mistakes and stop romanticising coercive control.
I read it to my daughter. Her eyes widened in surprise: “Did you mean for it to rhyme, Mummy?” (I showed her the online rhyming dictionary – I do not need to pretend to be cleverer than I actually am.) Until I read her Don’t Call Me Princess, my child was very fond of princesses. She did a complete 180-degree turn in her opinions after hearing the story once, which made her feminist mum incredibly happy. My daughter wants to be an Astronaut? She shall be.
People call me ‘Princess’ every time I wear a dress.
They ask me if I like it and expect me to say ‘yes’.
Why is it always ‘Princess’? What could they say instead
If they stopped looking at my body and they thought about my head?
Call me ‘Astronaut’ or ‘Journalist’ or ‘Brain Surgeon’ or ‘Teacher’
Or ‘Carpenter’ or ‘Pastry Chef’ or ‘Play Worker’ or ‘Preacher’.
Women do all kinds of things while wearing lovely clothes
But please, don’t call me Princess, cos I’m never one of those.
My mum is not a Queen, you see. My dad is not a King.
Instead of being a Princess… I can be ANYTHING!
Gratifyingly, my daughter and all her friends have taken to shouting the phrase “I can be ANYTHING!” at the top of their voices when I read them the story. I’m not sure it’ll work for a calming bedtime read.
The artwork. (A slog.)
“Great!” I thought. “Now to draw the book!” I had relatively recently drawn two 180-page graphic novels in less than nine months each. This was only thirty six pages. How hard could it be? I set aside a couple of months and launched myself into it. “It’ll be easy!” I thought. “No need to draw roughs. No need to develop character sketches. I know what I’m after!”
Dear, oh dear: it wasn’t and I didn’t.
Drawing for children is very very hard. I had never done it before, and I’d been annoyed, for years, at the assumption that I had. Cartoons are “just for kids”. People used to look at my graphic guide to climate change and say “it’ll be nice for children” and I wanted to shake them and say “No! Don’t give it to children! Give it to directors of petroleum corporations and members of the House of Lords!” But when faced with the reality that an unknown number of pre-literate people would be closely tracking my story purely through my pictures, they would be drinking in every detail with wide, uncritical eyes, it hit home pretty quickly that this artwork had to be exceptional.
It was only thirty-six pages, except it wasn’t. I’d formulated a narrative of a child sitting reading fairy-tales on the beach while the action unfolded in thought bubbles above her head. And every detail of those thought bubbles had to be worked and reworked.
I’d decided early on to avoid Disney interpretations of the princesses. I didn’t want to attract any heat for copyright infringement, even though I might have been able to make a case for fair use by parody. But I also really enjoyed reimagining the princesses myself. Compare Disney’s Rapunzel with the Don’t Call Me Princess version:
My Little Mermaid is considerably more righteous than her Disney counterpart:
It was fun, letting the princesses develop on the page, but I had a big problem with the central figure, the narrator. (I really shoulda done character sketches ahead of time!) I had always envisaged her as that little child standing in that blue dress at playgroup, but five years had passed since then, and my attempts to draw a two-year-old weren’t working. She seemed, clunky, uncanny, something unpleasantly lodged between reality and cuteness which was managing neither. I was three-quarters of the way through the book and the deadline was looming. I decided to go and see the renowned children’s illustrator Sarah McIntyre who chuckled a little at my presumption at thinking I could illustrate a children’s book in three months and very generously agreed to have a look at my pictures:
“Lose the Chuckie Doll” she said, brutally. She was right.
McIntyre explained that my narrator was lodged in the uncanny valley, and my attempts at realism weren’t helping her to come to life. She gave me a masterclass in how to draw child figures that really look cute, with smooth, artistic, stylised lines. I had a really hard think about what I wanted the central character to do and I realised that she needed to be more real, not less. This has to be a book about a real girl, reading a real book, in the real world, analysing the real princesses that we really should be critical of. And I have a child of exactly the right age. She’s seven. A good critical age. The perfect model.
So I went out and bought my daughter a princess dress. Oh, the irony!
I kept the little plaits from the original character. They’re cute.
It’s well past the deadline, but it’s done.
Don’t Call Me Princess is at the printer’s, [UPDATE: IT’S OUT NOW AND YOU CAN BUY IT!] the proofs looked delectable, and I have high hopes for it. If I’d written it ten years ago I would have been lucky to get a mention in the alternative press, but now there’s a real surge in awareness of women’s oppression and gender roles, maybe it’ll ride this new strong feminist wave? Maybe we can build something good here.
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Don’t Call Me Princess will be published by New Internationalist in October 2018.
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